Bullying Prevention: Put an Ice Pack on the Bully’s words that hurt you by using some bullying prevention coping skills.
For years I have been trying to teach people that to ignore a bully or mean teaser is not the correct method for stopping a bully. However, I am not saying to bully or tease the person back. What we have to do is use “emotional intelligence”. This means we stand up for ourselves and others in a positive, pro-active way.
Recently, I saw an episode on a popular Bravo TV. show promoting bullying prevention. On this show I witnessed two very classy ladies lowering themselves to the bullies’ level by shooting the middle finger and saying the “f” word for a campaign to stop bullying.
Trust me, this is not the way to stop bulling folks! Cursing and doing rude and vile gestures back to a bully will only get you into trouble. If you do this at school you will get into trouble with the administration because we don’t curse or use vulgar hand gestures at school.
If you do this outside of school you could get physically attacked. That is why this supposed coping skill is “bad news”!
If you want to stop a bully, or mean teaser, you have to learn emotional intelligence. When we practice and learn bullying prevention coping skills we are using our emotional intelligence. This shows that we are smarter than the bully.
Think of the middle ages when kings and queens had “court”. The courtiers had to learn to be witty in order to promote themselves, or even stay alive at times. “Witt” was considered a great skill and took a lot of practice. These couturiers took “being witty” very seriously in order to deal with all the politics of the “court”.
Today, we need to become “witty” and maneuver through the “court” in order to be happy and healthy. When we worry about bullying, we are not at our best. We allow the “bully” to control our mind by worrying and stressing.
I have students grades drop due to this. Some people even allow themselves to get very sick because they are bullied or teased. We cannot allow the bully or mean teaser to get to us. It is simply a waste of time and energy for you.
Don’t give your energy away to the bully! You need to use your energy for positive things such as getting good grades, taking care of yourself, or be more creative.
If you are obsessing about a bully think about all the energy you are using to do this. What could you do, make, or create if you put this energy somewhere else and made something positive come out of it?
Here are some suggestions to help you to put “The Deep Freeze” on Bullying:
For more great bullying prevention coping skills on bullying see the link below:
Disclaimer: This website and its content is intended for trained licensed mental health professionals and school certified mental health professionals to use for their clients / students at their own discretion.
*If you ignore the disclaimer above are using these techniques on yourself and you feel any discomfort or upset it is highly suggested that you seek out a licensed mental health professional immediately.
For any other type of mental health emergency call your local 911 / Police Number immediately.
Dr. Stangline does not offer advice / suggestions to anyone who is not a professional mental health provider, or a student who is studying this field and has questions about mental health programs of study.
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