Give Bullying & Mean Teasing the Cold Shoulder by putting the “Deep Freeze” Coping Skills on Bullying Prevention

Bullying Prevention: Put an Ice Pack on the Bully’s words that hurt you by using some bullying prevention coping skills.

For years I have been trying to teach people that to ignore a bully or mean teaser is not the correct method for stopping a bully. However, I am not saying to bully or tease the person back. What we have to do is use “emotional intelligence”. This means we stand up for ourselves and others in a positive, pro-active way.

Recently, I saw an episode on a popular Bravo TV. show promoting bullying prevention. On this show I witnessed two very classy ladies lowering themselves to the bullies’ level by shooting the middle finger and saying the “f” word for a campaign to stop bullying.

Trust me, this is not the way to stop bulling folks! Cursing and doing rude and vile gestures back to a bully will only get you into trouble.  If you do this at school you will get into trouble with the administration because we don’t curse or use vulgar hand gestures at school.

If you do this outside of school you could get physically attacked. That is why this supposed coping skill is “bad news”!

If you want to stop a bully, or mean teaser, you have to learn emotional intelligence. When we practice and learn bullying prevention coping skills we are using our emotional intelligence. This shows that we are smarter than the bully.

Think of the middle ages when kings and queens had “court”. The courtiers had to learn to be witty in order to promote themselves, or even stay alive at times. “Witt” was considered a great skill and took a lot of practice. These couturiers took “being witty” very seriously in order to deal with all the politics of the “court”.  

Today, we need to become “witty” and maneuver through the “court” in order to be happy and healthy. When we worry about bullying, we are not at our best. We allow the “bully” to control our mind by worrying and stressing.

I have students grades drop due to this. Some people even allow themselves to get very sick because they are bullied or teased. We cannot allow the bully or mean teaser to get to us. It is simply a waste of time and energy for you.

Don’t give your energy away to the bully! You need to use your energy for positive things such as getting good grades, taking care of yourself, or be more creative.  

If you are obsessing about a bully think about all the energy you are using to do this. What could you do, make, or create if you put this energy somewhere else and made something positive come out of it?

Here are some suggestions to help you to put “The Deep Freeze” on Bullying:

 

1. Have your school or work place wear white or light blue to show unity in bullying prevention.  My school wears these colors for one week in order to promote “The Deep Freeze Awareness” for bullying prevention.
2. Buy the bully an ice cream! Don’t say anything mean to the bully. Just tell them you are buying them an ice cream cone or simply hand ice cream to them as a “nice gesture”.  Buy yourself an ice cream too for using “Emotional Intelligence”.
3. Use the bullying prevention coping skill “Deep Freeze” by shivering and stating, “It is so cold in here” if you are being bullied or mean teased. Then walk away.
4. Use “The Frosty” bullying prevention coping skill. Do what Frosty the Snowman would do if he was being bullied. Frosty liked to say, “Happy Birthday” when his hat got put on his head. Simply tell the bully or mean teaser, “Happy Birthday”! Then smile and walk away.

For more great bullying prevention coping skills on bullying see the link below:

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