Reconnect With Your Inner Child
In my Creative Play Therapy 101 class I require students to reconnect with their inner child. I do not believe one can be a great creative counselor or play therapist without doing this.
We all have an inner child within us. Some of us have never lost touch with this unique part of ourselves. Some of us have lost, forgotten, or ignored this inner child part.
Perhaps it was due to the fact that you had to grow up to fast. Maybe you had to deal with a trauma in your life and your inner child went into hiding. Or, maybe you were influenced by your culture, began acting like an adult too soon, and wanted forgot the child within yourself.
There are many ways to loose your inner child. But know this, there are many ways to reconnect with your lost inner child.
One needs to reconnect with their inner child if they want to work with children and use play therapy. Children can sense if a counselor, or therapist, is "faking" play therapy. When this happens children resist play therapy healing.
Below is the actual project I ask my graduate students to do for twenty percent of their final play therapy grade.
The Inner Child Scrapbook Project
Create a scrapbook honoring your inner child. Make sure to include the following items in your scrapbook:
1. Letter of Apology
Write a letter of apology if you have forgotten your inner child. Tell your inner child you wish to reconnect and allow it to surface. Make sure you tell your inner child you will keep it safe. If you have not forgotten your inner child, write a letter promising to have more fun!
2. Play Date With Inner Child
Make and keep a play date with your inner child. This should be based on what your inner child wants to do, or used to want to do. Do not allow the adult within to take control. Your inner child needs to make the plans for the date. The adult inside you needs to plan the date.
Perhaps your inner child used to like to go roller skating, swimming, or to the playground. One of my students took her inner child and bought a coloring book. Now she and her inner child color something every day.
I have taken my inner child on many play dates. Recently, we went horseback riding. I had a horse when I was a child, and my inner child sometimes misses having a horse to ride.
3. Reconnect With A Childhood Activity Weekly
Once you have taken your inner child on a play date you may start to remember what your inner child loved to do many years ago.
One student started swinging on a swing set as daily exercise. Another student rediscovered riding a bike and does it with her family on the week-end.
4. Reconnect With Your Inner Child's Long Lost Dreams
What were the dreams you and your inner child used to have long ago? How can you bring these dreams to life today? They may look different, but it will make your inner child happy to try to recreate the dreams and make some a reality.
Maybe you wanted to become a singer? Can you join a church choir?Or perhaps you wanted to become an actress? How about hosting a workshop on something you know?
5. Make A Special Room Or Place For Your Inner Child
When you were little, where did you and your inner child go to feel safe? Maybe you had a special place where you watched the clouds go by? Or, perhaps you had a special cardboard box you hid in.
Did you have a desk to keep your art work in? Or a place to go listen to music?
Create a special place for you and your inner child to go and spend some time in once in a while. This will make your inner child feel special and loved.
6. Visit A Toy Store And Buy Your Inner Child A Present
Make a visit to a special toy store and allow your inner child to purchase a special toy or trinket from this toy store.
This activity will also help you see what toys are on the market today.
7. Create A Special Toy Box For Your Inner Child
Get a shoe box and make a special toy box for your inner child to play in when he or she gets bored.
Decorate the box and add fun trinkets, toys, pictures of dreams, candy, chocolate, etc. If your inner child wants something in the box....allow it!
8. What Did Your Inner Child Like To Collect?
Reconnect with what your inner child used to like to collect? Try to find a piece of this collection. Bring it out and allow it to be seen daily by your inner child?
Was it a model horse collection? A race car collection? Barbies? Strawberry Shortcake? Beanie Babies? Friendship Bracelets?
9. Make A Piece Of Artwork With Your Inner Child
Take your inner child to fun and creative art galleries (Nothing stuffy or boring) and find some art you want to recreate. It can be a painting, jewelry, greeting card, clothing, etc.
Take a picture of what your inner child wants to recreate and get lost in the creative process.
10. Plan Your Inner Child's Dream Birthday Party
Create an invitation for your inner child's dream birthday party. The sky is the limit! Put down whatever your inner child wants to put down for your dream party.
After doing this invitation, what harm would it do to actually plan and host a party for your inner child? It does not have to be your actual birthday!
Using the ten ideas above create a scrapbook with many visuals and photos your inner child will be proud to look through.
Inner Child Scrapbook Project
The work on this inner child scrapbook was done by an incredibly gifted student. She put her heart and sole into her inner child and the scrapbook. She got a lot out of this project.
Here you can see that she got in touch with her inner child's wish to own a pair of red cowboy boots!
She bought her inner child some red cowboy boots right after the class ended.
What will you buy your inner child?
In the below photo this student created the ideal birthday party and birthday party invitation for her inner child.
The attention to detail is incredible. This was a student who put her heart and soul into connecting with her inner child.
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