Helping Kids Behave Part Eleven 

¨      ENSURE STUDENT SELF-CONTROL:   Use empathy and praise. Give the student a few minutes to calm down. You may also, when possible, give the student the option of seeing the school counselor rather than going to the office. The next section will talk about self- control strategies in more detail.

¨      ENGAGE STUDENT IN FOLLOW-UP TEACHING OR PROBLEM SOLVING. Talk to them about their behavior. Discuss strategies that will help them in the future. See the "What do I want" form (appendix B).

Again all of this is based on having a relationship with the child!

Student self-control

Youth who are aggressive and antisocial are often highly agitated. This frequently puts them into conflict with both adults and peers. They seem to carry intense levels of anger and sometimes rage.

Some act out because they have been abused. They also carry feelings of alienation and may have great difficulty controlling these emotions effectively,  (Walker, Colvin & Ramsey in Davis, Nelson, & Gauger, 2000).

In fact these tantrums, confrontations, and other inappropriate behaviors have worked well for them in that they have learned that these behaviors cause other people to back away, allowing them to have their own way in situations.

This makes it difficult for them to replace the inappropriate behaviors with appropriate ones. To teach the strategies, begin when the youth is calm and not misbehaving.

Then, identify a self-control strategy for the list below and give an example of how it can be used. Describe and demonstrate the steps of each strategy for the student. Ask if the student understands what you are saying and then have the youth practice using the strategy in a pretend situation.

Finally, give feedback and reinforce the behavior.

¨ Deep-Breathing

a) Silently count to five as you take a deep breath in through your nose.

b) Hold the breath in for five seconds.

c) Count to five again and let the breath out slowly.

d) Take two breaths normally.

e) Repeat steps a-d two or three times until you feel yourself calming down.

f) Tell an adult when you are calm.

¨ Drawing or Writing in a Journal

A) Find someplace where you won’t be disturbed.

B) Draw a picture that shows how you are feeling or write down how you are feeling.

C) When you are calm tell an adult.

Please note that this technique should not be used with LD children who have problems in written expression or with students who have visual-motor problems.




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